Golf is one of those games that entices you and sucks you in.
It doesn't take long for it to be all consuming.
I remember when I first started playing. I worked all the hours available in the week and when Saturday came around, rushed off to play golf with a group of friends, either at a local municipal course or with the ‘swindle’ at the golf club a few years later, when I had managed to get myself a handicap.
I’d arrive at the golf course not long before tee-off, grab a cold drink, hit a few rushed practice balls and then dash to the first tee minutes before tee off.
Once there, I’d scratch around for a few tees, a ball marker, hopefully find a pencil in the bag and a score card.
All set and then we were off.
Hardly the preparation for required to put me in the right frame of mind mentally or physically to play at my best!
If I managed a par on the first I was elated "This is the week" I'd be thinking.
A bogey and I'd console myself with something like "It was to be expected…. I’ve been working all week”.
A double bogey and it was “Oh *$#*> … the round’s ruined already”.
The first hole was the indicator for the rest of the round.
Or so I thought and led myself to believe for years.
I was doing exactly the same thing week in and week out, ‘hoping’ for some improvement, which was slow in coming to say the least.
It seemed almost impossible to shoot a lower score or get my handicap down, which was frustrating as hell. I'd spend all week in anticipation for Saturday's game thinking "This is the week!"
Then I'd be sat in the 19th mulling over where it all went wrong... again.
So why wasn’t it happening?
I simply didn't know.
So, like may people, I read a myriad of articles on trying to find 'the perfect swing', tips, drills and bought all the glossy golf mags with the lovely adverts for all the new 'shiny' go faster clubs that would make me a 'real golfer'.
They even had ad's for a set of brush tees that would help your golf!
I didn't buy any.
Einstein, one of the greatest minds in history, wasn’t a golfer I'm sure, but he may have had golfers in mind when he said “To keep doing the same thing over and over and expect to get a different result, is the sign of madness”.
That may seem quite harsh, but it certainly made sense in my case!.
The realisation was that we can all learn something from someone, somewhere along the way if we look at things a little differently. Even if they aren't involved directly in what we do.
I was doing exactly the same things, every week and getting the same results instead of looking at what I was doing and what I could be doing, to get a different result.
It took years of playing the game, of frustration, anxiety and an emotional roller coaster ride, before the penny finally dropped.
The players who improved quicker and became better players were those who did things a bit different.
More relaxed (or so it seemed on the outside!)
More in control
And they were less reactive to things when they went wrong.
In order to improve, meant something needed to change.
Me... my thinking.
Change or keep doing the same things and stay stuck.
However, the mind doesn't always welcome change, but with the right approach, tactics and tools, almost anything is possible.
My thinking improved and so did the golf. Not to Einstein's level but then he wasn't much of a golfer.
If you'd like a some ideas about changing your game, get a FREE copy of my 7 Keys to Improve Your Mental Golf Game by clicking this link and it will be sent to your inbox - Yes Please!
To Your Success
Performance Coach & Trainer at Golfing minds