I grew up looking forward to F.A.Cup final day like most kids, with eager anticipation. The day started out with tv cameras at the teams hotels following the players every move.
They followed them throughout the build up, giving an insight into everything you could wish to know from where the players would get their haircuts, to how fans were having their hair dyed in their teams colours, to what underpants they would be wearing as part of their superstitions.
But what’s this all got to do with golf?
Nothing and everything.
In all sports people have superstitions to help bring them some luck. The thing is almost all of the time we often make our own luck and no matter how many pairs of lucky pants or trousers you wear, or four leaf clovers, silver dollars you keep in your bag, they won’t stop your ball once it’s left the club face from taking a bad bounce left or right and ending up in the bad stuff.
There will always be times when playing the great game that things will not work out exactly the way we want them but there will also be times when things work out better than they really should.
Just recently Jerry Kelly playing on the PGA Champions tour at Hualalai, played his second shot on the 7th hole into the par five, he managed to block his shot straight right into the lava rocks, bouncing twice, before hitting the cart path and bounced down the hill through the rough and onto the green about 20-25 feet from the pin.
Sounds more like crazy golf!.
But he wasn’t finished yet. He nonchalantly walked up and sunk the putt for an eagle.
I can imagine that made his day, going from a likely double bogey to an eagle in no time at all, saving him four shots!
The thing was from the moment he hit the shot he knew it wasn’t going as he had planned but he didn’t go off on one. He simply started jogging left to see where it was going and let out a sound of faked pain with a hint of painful laughter as he realised he’d made a big booboo.
No thumping the ground, expletives or self-cursing.
I’ve seen many golfers who would have snapped the club in half as soon as they saw the shot aiming for the rocks.
Golfers can be pessimistic, almost expecting the worst to happen.
However, we never truly know what is going to happen, we can only do our bit, play the shots, follow the processes and routines and simply trust that everything goes right, instead of focusing on “What may go wrong”.
Having a negative expectation is a habit but one we’re not always aware of and can make us react more negatively to things when they appear to have gone wrong, instead of taking a little time to see what actually happens and then simply accepting things, come what may.
Wouldn’t it feel better to play with the anticipation of something good happening and focusing on positives to help your game, rather than always expecting the worst and being on edge the whole time?
Sounds simple. It is.
Easy. It’s not.
And therein lie the challenge and why so many struggle.
Change isn’t easy but like the saying goes “Everything worthwhile is uphill”. So if you’re fed up struggling with negativity or frustrated with your game, then get in touch to see how we can help you improve your mindset and your results by clicking here.
Performance Coach & Trainer at Golfing minds