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We can’t always choose our playing partners when we’re playing in any sort of competitive golf, whether that be your junior stableford, club monthly medal, county championships or at a higher level.
Playing with the same fourball every Saturday morning can start to lose its attraction after a while, no matter how friendly your mates are and it’s always good to play with others and against others in the game.
I’ve played with some, how shall we say, less than friendly sorts over the years including one guy that didn’t even bother to turn up because he wasn’t sure who he was playing with!
Nothing personal I’m sure, just some seemed to lack a certain ‘Je ne sais quoi’ as they would say in France. But that can happen in any walk of life.
And to be honest, it can be challenging playing the game with someone who is miserable. The game is a social game after all, so who wants to spend their leisure time with someone who is going to drain your energy?
But that’s exactly what many golfers do each week. They play with the most demanding, difficult, at times miserable and downright rude person you can imagine.
The guy who mocks you when you miss that short putt to go one ahead or tells you how useless you are or tells everyone “What an idiot” you are. You know he’s going to turn at some point, you’re just not sure when.
Who would want to play with someone like that?
The thing is many do. Every week.
That guy is themselves.
We don’t always see it that way when we do it to ourselves, but when we think of it another way, it doesn’t look too good does it?
So why not play with your best friend, your best buddy every week instead?
The guy who helps you out when things are starting to get away from you, when things start getting difficult and you’ve dropped a couple of shots or missed an easy putt.
The guy who whispers in your ear “you’ve got this” or “let it go and let’s move on” before it all goes to pot.
We often think we’re on our own out there for hours and it can be challenging, especially if we think that way.
However, you can choose to think differently. You can play with your best buddy.
Imagine having someone cheering you on instead of berating you. Someone who believes in you and wants you to succeed rather than falter.
Your best mate or buddy can and will show up if you ask him. You just have to practice it. The more you do it the easier it becomes.
Ask him and I’m sure he’ll tell you he’s up for it.
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Performance Coach & Trainer at Golfing minds