Over the years I’ve heard so many different differing thoughts and advice on how to improve and one of the most amusing quotes related to this was “You don’t improve because you keep listening to your friends”.
The problem with that is your friends often don’t know enough to be giving advice and also give the wrong advice, because they simply aren’t at a level to teach others and haven’t trained how to spot the problems and causes in someone else’s game.
I’m sure you wouldn’t ask a ‘friend’ to sort out your electrics at home who wasn’t qualified, so why do it with your golf game.
It often becomes so confusing and is counterproductive.
You can hear them saying things like “Your hands are too high…. Keep your head up…. As you take it away, keep your hands in line, turn wide, watch the ball, shoulder to chin and then what you do is….”.
Or words to that effect.
Which leads me to the best piece of advice I’ve ever heard in person rather than just in books. It was last year when attending a clinic for a small group of people after the RBC Heritage on Hilton Head Island, S,Carolina, being hosted by Sir Nick Faldo.
He arrived on the Monday morning after the tournament and walked to the practice ground where he was to hold the clinic. Without so much as a warm-up he launched into his talk and started going through his repertoire, hitting different shots from low fades to high draws with incredible precision.
Or so it seemed to us. He may not have been quite so impressed compared to his younger days, but he could still strike the ball beautifully.
But the amazing thing was when asked about his swing thoughts during competitions, he said that he won his first Open Championship with only one swing thought which was simply “Thumbs up”.
He explained that the world’s media thought he was, in his own words “Some mechanical lunatic”, but nothing could be further from the truth and on each shot, all he thought about was keeping his thumbs up on the back swing and thumbs up again on the follow through.
It was that simple and it worked.
So if you’re every wondering if you have too many swing and mental thoughts standing over a ball, if it’s more than one, then the answer is ‘Yes!”.
Like many things, keeping it simple always is best when it comes to the mind and especially golf.
Try it out in your game and see how you get on.
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Have you ever wondered why so many people struggle with golf?
I recall growing up in the 1970’s and it seemed that every time we turned the tv on, there was an American tv show on and someone was always off to ‘see their shrink’.
You’d see the tv character laying on a leather couch in the Psychologists office staring at the ceiling being grilled by the ‘shrink’ about their life and what was going wrong.
I remember thinking it’s all doom and gloom, is everyone really nuts?
Previously there’s been a negative connotation with the mental side of sports including golf, with many thinking there’s something ‘wrong’ with them if they seek the help of someone to work on their mindset.
It’s seen as some form of stigma or it's only for the very elite.
But nothing could be further from the truth. Working on your mind in any line of work, business or leisure is one of the best investments you can make. Ever.
You become elite because you work on your mind and game.
I’m not saying that because I am involved in the business but more a reason I got involved was because I’ve always been fascinated by what makes one person ‘tick’ or successful and another person not so. I realised my failings early on in life were because I lacked the mental strength and mindset required to get to the next level and sought out a way to find out how to get there.
One thing’s for sure, it would have been a much less difficult road to travel had I started much earlier in life, instead of choosing to do things “My way” for so many years, being blind to the power of our minds.
As I’ve covered in other blogs, golf is both a physical and a mental game and how we fuel our bodies and minds is critical to success.
I’m sure you’ve heard the expression “if you put cra*p in, you’ll get cr*p out” and many aren't aware how much of both they're putting in!
Many of golf’s greats have expressed their thoughts and feelings as to the power of having a strong mental game to become the person required to reach their potential and Arnold Palmer summed it up brilliantly when he said
“Success in the game depends less on strength of body than upon strength of mind and character”.
It doesn’t happen by chance. It happens through choice.
Here are some of the ways we work to help improve the mental aspects and fuel the mind.
1. Increase awareness. What’s working, what’s not working, Our weaknesses can outweigh our strengths.
2. Prepare. How to prepare for the course and how to get their minds into the right frame or state to perform at their best.
3. Routines: building routines that they can trust under pressure.
4. Build self-confidence and confidence. Confidence in their swing and confidence in their ability
5. Develop resilience – the ability to bounce back from setbacks during the game.
6. Develop the mental ability to reduce fear.
7. Accountability. Have someone who is there to help you commit and reach your potential.
8. Belief. Probably the most important one of all. You can achieve great things when you believe in yourself, but you can achieve amazing things when you have someone who believes in you.
Now, the big question ‘Do you need one?”
The simple answer is no one ‘needs’ one at all. The question is “Do you want to improve?”
Take it from me, doing it "My way" is not something I'd recommend if you want to fulfil your potential.
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I grew up looking forward to F.A.Cup final day like most kids, with eager anticipation. The day started out with tv cameras at the teams hotels following the players every move.
They followed them throughout the build up, giving an insight into everything you could wish to know from where the players would get their haircuts, to how fans were having their hair dyed in their teams colours, to what underpants they would be wearing as part of their superstitions.
But what’s this all got to do with golf?
Nothing and everything.
In all sports people have superstitions to help bring them some luck. The thing is almost all of the time we often make our own luck and no matter how many pairs of lucky pants or trousers you wear, or four leaf clovers, silver dollars you keep in your bag, they won’t stop your ball once it’s left the club face from taking a bad bounce left or right and ending up in the bad stuff.
There will always be times when playing the great game that things will not work out exactly the way we want them but there will also be times when things work out better than they really should.
Just recently Jerry Kelly playing on the PGA Champions tour at Hualalai, played his second shot on the 7th hole into the par five, he managed to block his shot straight right into the lava rocks, bouncing twice, before hitting the cart path and bounced down the hill through the rough and onto the green about 20-25 feet from the pin.
Sounds more like crazy golf!.
But he wasn’t finished yet. He nonchalantly walked up and sunk the putt for an eagle.
I can imagine that made his day, going from a likely double bogey to an eagle in no time at all, saving him four shots!
The thing was from the moment he hit the shot he knew it wasn’t going as he had planned but he didn’t go off on one. He simply started jogging left to see where it was going and let out a sound of faked pain with a hint of painful laughter as he realised he’d made a big booboo.
No thumping the ground, expletives or self-cursing.
I’ve seen many golfers who would have snapped the club in half as soon as they saw the shot aiming for the rocks.
Golfers can be pessimistic, almost expecting the worst to happen.
However, we never truly know what is going to happen, we can only do our bit, play the shots, follow the processes and routines and simply trust that everything goes right, instead of focusing on “What may go wrong”.
Having a negative expectation is a habit but one we’re not always aware of and can make us react more negatively to things when they appear to have gone wrong, instead of taking a little time to see what actually happens and then simply accepting things, come what may.
Wouldn’t it feel better to play with the anticipation of something good happening and focusing on positives to help your game, rather than always expecting the worst and being on edge the whole time?
Sounds simple. It is.
Easy. It’s not.
And therein lie the challenge and why so many struggle.
Change isn’t easy but like the saying goes “Everything worthwhile is uphill”. So if you’re fed up struggling with negativity or frustrated with your game, then get in touch to see how we can help you improve your mindset and your results by clicking here.
We’re all working on something we want achieve or improve and not always getting the results we want, so running out of ‘GAS’ may just be what you need to turn things around.
Whether that is our fitness, our swing, our tempo, our thoughts, our overall game or it could be something else outside of golf that affects our performance.
It’s not always something inside the game that affects our results. It’s no different in the business world and we take our personal lives to the office and vice versa.
Life goes on.
We can’t always just switch things on and off when it suits us.
Or can we?
I remember years ago a guy I worked with had this innate ability to switch off from work as soon as he left the office. When everyone else was scurrying around worried about what may or may not happen, always looking at their mobiles, checking emails and sending reports they thought clients ‘may’ want at 9pm, this guy simply shut off from the office when he left and focused on his family life.
He had the same ability on the golf course.
“That’s just not possible” ….. “Ridiculous” I can hear many of you cry.
I’ve heard it many times over the years. I even used to say it myself!
But I can certainly say from experience, he was right. He did it and so can we if we choose to. The problem is we don’t know how to switch off.
Sure, it’s ok for someone to simply say “Switch off and forget about it” but doing it is another thing.
Because we’ve been trained to do things in a certain way that it’s become habitual. We are creatures of habit as the saying goes and for good reason. We build many habits whether we’re aware of them or not.
Only be recognising them as habits can we choose to do something about them, intentionally. They won’t change by chance.
Which means making a conscious decision to change them and replacing them with new habits. Simple yes, easy not so much.
Which leads me to my point. Sometimes we need to run out of ‘GAS’ to actually get us there.
What I mean is to stop ‘Giving A S*@t ‘ to coin the phrase as it’s usually known.
We often spend so much time focused on and paying attention to what might happen, rather than simply doing our best and not getting so fixated about the result.
In golfing terms this means not reacting to where your ball ends up. It may take a sharp kick left or right into a hazard. You cannot control it and it doesn’t mean that you don’t care, more simply that you’re not letting it affect you.
So, if you find yourself getting angry when you see your ball hop into a bunker or a lake, remember to think about running out of ‘gas’ and change your reaction, as you cannot change what has happened.
It takes time and effort to change things, they don’t happen by themselves or overnight, but with some dedication they will and I’m sure you’ll see some improvement, now just in how you feel, but in your game overall.
After all, who wants to come off the course feeling frustrated all the time?
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It had been touted recently as potentially the best line up in The Masters modern history, with so many really good players coming into form at a similar time.
There was plenty of talk centred around Rory McIroy and the elusive ‘slam, Francesco Molinari’s amazing 2018 and his impressive start to 2019 with his win at the Arnold Palmer Invitational last month in his first outing after signing with new clubs.
If anyone had any doubts about what golf is about or whether or not to get their kids involved in the game, this years tournament was in my humble opinion, the greatest show of sportsmanship, skill and mental strength, as well as the greatest comeback of all time.
Sorry Muhammed Ali, I grew up watching you throughout your career and you were amazing, but Tiger has this one.
I believe we can all learn something from yesterday and these are my reasons why we should get more kids involved in the game of golf.
Humility. It’s been well documented over the last 8-9 years about his personal life, but things have moved on and it shows. He looks a completely different character and his recent playfulness was evident at The Players on the 17th when having fun with Kevin Na. Something the world has seen little of previously. The game has a way of making us all human.
Resilience. The ability to bounce back and come back when the odds and everything else seemed to be against you. Personal agonies and injuries which many would have given up because of long ago, the doubters and at times I’m sure, your own self-doubt tested you to the limit.
Attitude. It’s the thing that makes people top salesmen or not so good salesmen, the thing that makes top performers or average performers. It’s contagious and you can’t buy it but you can always see it.
Persistence. It’s intangible. Having the ability to keep going is something that only comes from a deep desire and intention to do so. It comes from having a strong enough reason “Why”. I think we saw the reason why when he walked off the 18th to his waiting family.
Patience. So often we get sucked into having to get everything now, before it’s too late. Tiger’s no spring chicken in this game at the age of 43, but he has shown incredible patience in his quest to get fit, work on what is required to get to where he wants to be and that’s at the top of his game. During the round yesterday, we saw absolute composure as he waited for his chance to move forward and didn’t re-act when he missed golden opportunities, choosing instead to be patient and bide his time.
Belief. We all question our beliefs at times when we’re faced with difficult situations and challenges, both in life and on the golf course. His self-belief and his attitude all stem from when he was being mentored by his father. Belief is where the magic happens and it all stemmed from his father believing in him,
This all adds up to what Like many, I feel is the greatest comeback in modern sporting history and the greatest display of mental strength I’ve ever seen in sports. I don’t wish to take anything away from Francesco Molinari, who in the last few years and in particular the last 18 months, has shown what an amazing golfer he has developed into, working with several coaches on his physical side, his swing and his mental approach, but yesterday he simply got swept aside by the phenomenon that is Tiger.
It’s been said many times, that Tiger Woods is good, no, Tiger Woods is great for golf and with what happened on Masters' Sunday, will no doubt help to bring even more young people into the game of golf and learn from him and the others what the game is really all about.
Watching the press conference yesterday with Rory was quite refreshing in a way and also quite scary.
Refreshing to see how he has moved his game up after some more changes in his personal routines, not just the golf ones. He talks differently and is open about how he has been meditating, changed his diet to exclude some things that may not be helping him perform and changed his thought processes to name a few.
It was quite scary too as I recalled ten years ago when I went through a similar transition after I discovered how serious a lower back injury was and I had to change many things to help improve, what was at the time thought to be a life changing situation, starting with physical health.
I started to change what I ate, dove into nutrition because as I discovered the computer analogy rings true…. “Crap in… crap out”. As a natural part of the transition and healing, it further led to the same thing with the mind and the way we think.
This was about improving the situation I was in at the time and believe me it was pretty dire, but the choices weren’t exactly thrilling.
What I discovered was that the mind doesn’t like change (nor do the taste buds) but it wasn’t all woo-woo, pixie dust and unicorns. Which is why it was a struggle to start with and on the food side, they put sugar and all sorts of other rubbish into so many things so it tastes ‘good’.
Now before your mind goes into a tailspin thinking “Oh no, not another one of those veggie new age vegan weirdo guys”, as I’ve already mentioned the computer analogy applies here too and is the same with the cars we drive.
Try putting the wrong fuel in your lovely Porsche or Beamer and see how far you get. Sugar laden, dyed liquids claiming to be sports drinks are not good for your physical or mental game.
And once you start to change the things you eat, the body reacts in a positive way and it wants more of the good stuff. Oh and the taste buds start to come alive when you put real food in your mouth!
A similar thing happens with the mind.
If you want to improve something, you have to change, it’s as simple as that. But there are some key factors to look at in order to make sure you have the best chance of success when you work with the mind and implement new strategies.
It’s more a case of keep putting the right things in so there isn’t room for the bad stuff and eventually you improve how you think, feel and act.
Here’s some of those factors:
How it is introduced. If you implement a completely new routine or regimen in one go, the mind can often reject the idea or make it seem like an uphill struggle. Start with baby steps, to make small successes along the way. For example, meditation. For me it was a challenge as I tried it once, diving in for what seemed like hours but was in fact a torrid 10 minutes where my mind was still going at 100 mph and the mind couldn’t sit still so to speak and so I stopped.
Start with one minute, then two minutes then three and building it up from there, so you can get upto 20-30 minutes a day if you so wish. It really helps relax and focus the mind.
In the book ‘From Couch to 5K’, they have a similar principle by starting to move yourself from the couch to running a short period to start with and building on it each day, you will eventually get to 5k.
Starting out at 5k isn’t going to work for many people.
Having a desire and an intention to actually improve things. Simply wanting to improve will not make it happen. Having an intention sets the ball rolling but the real driver behind this is to have a reason “Why”.
I don’t mean motivation, because I believe motivation is usually driven by someone else’s wishes not your own. You have to be inspired to do something, inspired or driven by something deep inside yourself.
As Rory eluded to in his press conference at the Masters yesterday, he wants to win and to do that he has to be the best he can be, but he doesn’t have to win. That’s a huge difference mentally.
It’s a process. It doesn’t happen overnight and it takes commitment to the process. Often we want instant results and if we don’t get them, we think it’s not working rather than trusting the process and allowing it to take shape.
Just listening to him at the conference you can see the work he has been doing over the last seven months has started to pay off, not just on the golf course, but in his personal life, the way he speaks, how controlled he is and his outlook.
It’s changed and so has his golf.
We haven’t seen the best of Rory yet, I’m sure of that.
Well done Rory, you are a true sportsman and inspiration to so many people, not simply golfers and I will certainly be rooting for you this week at the Masters.
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Like many golfers, I imagine you can’t wait for Saturday to Arrive.
Especially if you’ve been cooped up in an office all week. The lure of the fairways is so tempting after a long winter if you’re in the Northern Hemisphere.
But with all the excitement, expectations and eagerness to get out and play, do you know who will turn actually up on the day?
This is a big problem for many golfers. They’re never quite sure if it’s going to be Dr Jekyll or Mr Hyde.
“Where did that come from?” I remember a friend saying several times when we were was sat in the 19th after after a particularly good round.
The truth was he wasn’t ever sure who would actually turn up. He didn’t know his own game or the likely cause of his performance.
Once he discovered it wasn’t simply one thing, but a combination of things that made a real difference, things started to click.
Here’s a few things that helped transform his game:
Preparation is key for anyone who wants to improve or perform at a high level. He was used to turning up 15-20 minutes before a tee time, after rushing around all morning, grab his things and head off to the first tee expecting to be on top form.
This includes preparing the mind for the game, focusing on what you want to achieve and getting yourself into the right mindset. Feel good about yourself and your game before you even get to the course. If you don’t, you’re only setting yourself up for tough time.
Quality thinking is vitally important. Most people call it positive thinking, but It’s not all hot air. If you don’t believe me, try playing a round focusing on all the negatives: missed putts, three or four putts you’ve had, bunkers and mishits and see how well you play.
I’m sure it won’t give you the results you desire.
Play within yourself. We often get carried away with the occasion and our emotions can affect us both negatively and positively if we aren’t careful. Don’t be suckered into chasing score and going for shots that are really out of your reach or playing level.
Unless you are Rory McIlroy, you aren’t going to hit a drive like Rory McIlroy.
Have a process and stick to it. Don’t be tempted to start chasing scores and focusing on getting shots back. Develop processes for each part of your game and scores will follow.
Start using these as part of your game and in your preparations and see if you know who will turn actually up each week. I’m sure you’ll start to feel more confident and improve your scores.
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We can’t always choose our playing partners when we’re playing in any sort of competitive golf, whether that be your junior stableford, club monthly medal, county championships or at a higher level.
Playing with the same fourball every Saturday morning can start to lose its attraction after a while, no matter how friendly your mates are and it’s always good to play with others and against others in the game.
I’ve played with some, how shall we say, less than friendly sorts over the years including one guy that didn’t even bother to turn up because he wasn’t sure who he was playing with!
Nothing personal I’m sure, just some seemed to lack a certain ‘Je ne sais quoi’ as they would say in France. But that can happen in any walk of life.
And to be honest, it can be challenging playing the game with someone who is miserable. The game is a social game after all, so who wants to spend their leisure time with someone who is going to drain your energy?
But that’s exactly what many golfers do each week. They play with the most demanding, difficult, at times miserable and downright rude person you can imagine.
The guy who mocks you when you miss that short putt to go one ahead or tells you how useless you are or tells everyone “What an idiot” you are. You know he’s going to turn at some point, you’re just not sure when.
Who would want to play with someone like that?
The thing is many do. Every week.
That guy is themselves.
We don’t always see it that way when we do it to ourselves, but when we think of it another way, it doesn’t look too good does it?
So why not play with your best friend, your best buddy every week instead?
The guy who helps you out when things are starting to get away from you, when things start getting difficult and you’ve dropped a couple of shots or missed an easy putt.
The guy who whispers in your ear “you’ve got this” or “let it go and let’s move on” before it all goes to pot.
We often think we’re on our own out there for hours and it can be challenging, especially if we think that way.
However, you can choose to think differently. You can play with your best buddy.
Imagine having someone cheering you on instead of berating you. Someone who believes in you and wants you to succeed rather than falter.
Your best mate or buddy can and will show up if you ask him. You just have to practice it. The more you do it the easier it becomes.
Ask him and I’m sure he’ll tell you he’s up for it.
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What a great tournament!
Not just because of Sunday but all four days. It had beautiful weather, ok, except Sunday, we had great golf, drama, a hole in one and Tiger had the crowds and viewers smiling with his fooling around on 17 when having a joke with his playing partner Kevin Na.
Something that’s rarely been seen over the years.
We had numerous golfers who were challenging for the lead and some came out of nowhere to post some incredible scores, but Rory managed to hold on, played some terrific golf and won an amazing tournament. It certainly made for great tv.
However, one thing stood out besides Rory’s brilliance.
He managed to beat Jim Furyk by only one shot. One shot!
Rory is in the top 5 on driving distance and is known for his terrific long game and is in the prime of his golfing life. Furyk on the other hand is ranked 212th in distance just now, with an average of 271 yards, some 41 yards less than Rory.
To put it into perspective, on the 16th Rory hit a drive and a 9 iron into the green on this 520 yard par 5, whereas Jim Furyk was hitting a drive and some kind of wood for his second shot!
A drive and 9 iron 520 yards was unheard of when I was growing up.
Over the whole tournament, the guy who is 212 in driving distance loses by 1 shot to Rory.
Oh and Furyk is only two months short of his 49th birthday. Even by golfing standards, he’s not old, but he’s also not considered to be in the prime of his career.
I’m not taking anything away from McIlroy, I’m a great fan of his and love watching him play, but I also love to see how others manage to play at the levels they do without having the best long game, the best short game or being the hottest putter on the planet.
I’m sure he’s going to have a great time on the Champions Tour in just over a year’s time.
So what did I learn from the Players Championship?
It’s still the greatest game or sport out there, whether you hit it long or fat, you’re young or old, you can still get a great deal of fun and enjoyment out of it, if you put something and your mind to it.
No matter what age.
Furyk and McIlroy are proof of that.
Well played guys.
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I remember presenting a workshop a while ago, talking about the importance of developing routines to help build healthy habits and processes so that we can rely up the same thing to happen each time we do something.
A guy sitting in the front row was looking distinctly puzzled and I asked him if there was a problem.
He said he couldn’t get his head round doing everything in a special order and that he “wasn’t a robot”.
I must admit years ago when I first started playing golf, I would have agreed with him as it is very challenging putting all the swing mechanics, thoughts and processes into a smooth rhythmic motion when we first start playing.
We just want to get out and hit it, then hit it again and again then hopefully two putt. That was the theory.
However, when I asked him what his biggest challenge was, he said it was having too many thoughts when approaching his ball.
And that’s exactly what we’re aiming to avoid I explained and why we want to have these routines, to go on autopilot, so we avoid all these swing thoughts. Or in other terms, interference.
Whether that’s a pre-shot routine, a putting routine or moving on from a setback, the idea is to automate each process rather than each time having something different to think about and something different happening.
At first, trying something new isn’t easy and the tendency is to ‘think’ about what we want to do. Thinking about all the mechanics of the swing, the sequence, where what goes where and when. A good teaching pro will help make that a lot easier but we need to be aware mentally what’s happening, but not overthink it all.
And that takes time.
It’s the same when we first start out driving a car. We have a lot to take in and think about: from putting the key in the ignition, make sure the clutch is in, car is in neutral, check mirrors, signal, manoeuvre, oh and don’t forget the handbrake etc etc.
It can be mentally challenging and frustrating getting all that information to work in a seem-less fashion. It takes time for it to become fluid and natural, by making adjustments along the way using our senses and our feelings.
I remember kangarooing down the high street when I first started driving and it's no different in golf when we start out playing. It's not all smooth and rhythmic.
After a while of repetition, it becomes automatic, as we take the thinking part out of the whole process, just the same when you’ve driven somewhere, you've got there but don’t remember actually doing it. In other words 'autopilot'.
Your subconscious is running the show as it has gotten used to the whole process and doesn’t need your conscious thought processes to actually drive the vehicle.
In golf though, all too often our thought processes get in the way depending on what’s happening during the round, which brings in emotions and at times the real killer, doubts.
Learning to build automation or becoming a little ‘robotic’ in your thinking will go a long way to improving your mental strategies around the course and removing some of the unnecessary thoughts at the wrong times.
Try it out and see for yourself if you’re not already doing so.
It will take some time getting used to but with some commitment I'm sure you'll get great results.
Performance Coach & Trainer at Golfing minds